A gal can call herself SexyGirl69 and she will get all the cyber attention she can stand. She may not be sexy, she may not 69, she may not even be a girl! Doesn't matter. Avalanche of guys.
I'm not complaining. I don't put my picture online. This may be because I'm disfigured. Or I think I'm unattractive, or old. Maybe I'm in the witness protection program. Or I believe photographs steal a piece of my soul.
I like the anonymity of the Internet. I like people relating to my mind.
I do have a lot of resentment towards women who get cutsey, in real life and online.
I don't like them getting the attention for that.
You know, "How shall I end this tweet? Oh, I know...colon dash parenthesis parenthesis parenthesis...um...parenthesis! Yay!"
"I'm so petite I can barely see over the steering wheel of my Prius!"
"I'm a scary little munchkin when I get mad!"
"I'm just about regular height in my heels, which I wear all the time! Hee hee."
"I wanted to be a ballarina but I'm just too topheavy! {{ wink }}"
I could go on. Snark much. Yes, thank you.
A friend of mine's mother went online to a gaming site. She liked to make things by sewing and knitting. She chose the screen name, craftylady. Guess what happened? Men would try to hit on her on the online gaming site. My friend would observe and chat with these men to tell them to lay off with "discussions" with his mother.
ReplyDeleteTo her, craftylady was what she did, she made crafts. It had no ulterior connotation such a promise of promiscuity. It only meant that she liked to play games, games that you would play on a board but now online.
The promise of sexual fulfillment should not be sought to get attention. It is building a relationship on emotional sand as it will eventually sink.
What is sad about the women discussed in this post, is that they are subjugating themselves and marginalizing their thoughts, skills and abilities by not acting in a three dimensional way. I often think when I hear such women talk about being petite that they must deny themselves such things as a fulfilling meal. Some form of petiteness is genetic but playing off the height for acceptance and popularity is sad. A greater part of their lives will not be spent bragging about their constant use of high heels, so they should start thinking about a more endurable characteristic that will sustain them in nourishing their interactions with men and women.
Being "cute" is for children, being "beautiful" and "lovely" is timeless. When you give of yourself, and are accepted, being cute will not be what sustains you, being beautiful if finding the person who appreciates your beauty is what will sustain and enrich a relationship between a man and a woman, or a man and a man, or a woman and an woman.